Out with the old and in with the new…….

This is a time for people to get rid of anything that isn’t working in their lives. Whether it’s a relationship that has been failing, a career move that needs to be made, pursuing an educational goal or setting limits with someone you care about….now is a good time. I don’t believe in New Years Resolutions because they can often be unrealistic goals that are set. But I do believe in working to make realistic and lasting changes no matter the size that work to help you have a richer, more satisfying or more peaceful life. In that spirit I set the goal of not repeating a pattern that I personally have been stuck in. I wish everyone the best in setting theirs! Happy New Year!


Tis the season to be jolly…..

The holiday season can be a very depressing time for people. All the expectations of gift giving and family joy. Commercials streaming across our televisions of homes with perfectly manicured trees surrounded by families wearing holiday colored sweaters and big smiles as they give each other gifts. Television shows that show us the same. When the reality is that the US in a an economic crisis, many people still don’t have jobs, and many others have lost their homes. Even when times were more merry from an economic standpoint and we had an economy we could bank on (excuse the pun)- the reality is that families can be stressful. Just about every family has an aunt that drinks too much or a parent that did this or didn’t do that. Finding gifts and spending money to find the “right” gifts is also stressful. I have yet to meet someone who comes from a perfectly intact family, or a home where there was not some degree of dysfunction. This image is not possible for those who celebrate the season and Christmas, so it can also be a bit alienating for those that don’t celebrate Christmas. It can actually be a very depressing time when expectations are so high and reality is another story. One of the good things that comes out of this end of the year season is taking the time to look at the year which has passed, assessing how you are feeling about things, and making plans for what you want to change. Are you feeling depressed this holiday season?

So many people are suffering from depression and are not even aware of it. It can be debilitating, overwhelming and throw your life completely off course. Depression impacts your relationships and your ability to connect to others and your ability to feel whole and okay within yourself. When people become depressed they physically are not making enough or absorbing enough of the chemicals that it creates to make you feel good. People become depressed for a variety of reasons. This could be based on your genetic make up or can occur after you have been dealing with stress and challenges, even using marijuana or alcohol, any drug can begin to cause this to happen.

How can you tell if your depressed? First pay attention to how you’re feeling. Do you feel down, and tired a lot? Are you able to do the things you used to do? Do you think that there is any hope for you to have a better future? Have you gained or lost weight recently without trying? Are you sleeping less or more than you used to? Has this been going on for at least a couple of weeks? It’s normal to have some everyday changes with how you’re feeling. You know it’s an issue if it’s lasted for a while and it has not changed. It’s important to know that you aren’t alone in dealing with it. If you are able to, talk to your friends and family about what is going on. And seek professional help. Having a therapist to talk to is the first step.

If you would like to, you can try the depression quiz below.